This time of year, I’m always confronted with mixed emotions about accepting party invitations when I don’t know the other guests. These holiday gatherings can either be surprisingly fun or deathly dull. This presents a healthy internal debate about whether I should go or stay home. Fearful of turning into a housebound curmudgeon, I force […]
Delivering high quality work without overdosing on perfection is a tough balancing act that many business professionals struggle to maintain. This is particularly true when managing direct reports or working with peers. The bright side of striving for perfection is high standards and delivering impeccable work which is seen as a hallmark of success. The dark side […]
7 ways to doom your networking by Gail Golden For a true extrovert, “Heaven is a room full of strangers.” For an introvert, that’s probably a good description of hell. But both sides know that networking is necessary for success, especially as more and more people are freelancing. Networking is the tool we use to […]
“That’s two hours of my life I’ll never get back.” This is a common refrain I’ve heard muttered for the past thirty years. Poorly managed meetings are the bane of everyone’s existence. At their worst, they resemble the absurdity of this year’s political debates. People are frustrated by too many meetings, too many people in […]
I was recently asked this question for a Crain’s article regarding United Airlines’ CEO Oscar Munoz who underwent a heart transplant. This is a logical question. Can he physically withstand the demands of running one of the largest and most beleaguered airlines in the world? Not being a cardiologist, I’m not in a position to […]
Being a better you is a life long journey. In my book, Amplify Your Career and Life, I explore five universal themes that people experience on their way to creating a fulfilling and enriched life. Being Creative. Creativity is one of the best ways to keep you fresh and engaged. It allows you to open […]
What is your motivation for re-evaluating your career and the way you are living your life? Perhaps there is a specific event(s) that you feel the need to confront such as a job loss. Perhaps you no longer feel connected to your career. Or perhaps you are realizing the need to be more mindful about […]
There are many practical reasons for hiring an executive coach. According to the 10th annual Sherpa executive coaching survey, the main reason for working with a coach has shifted from addressing a specific problem to proactive leadership development. The study also confirmed that an executive coach provides the greatest value in helping leaders effectively manage […]
Your career, if you so choose, could span 40 years or more. Thus having a resilient career over the long term is no small feat. Undoubtedly, there will be times when you feel vulnerable and unsure about what’s next. These are the times when you need to be resilient. The cornerstone of career resiliency is having […]
I was recently interviewed on Business Innovators Radio by Donna Gunter to discuss my book Amplify Your Career and Life. We had a lively conversation about managing one’s career after 50. One of the prevailing themes was how to stay relevant in an ever changing work environment. Here are four topics we covered: How to […]
After fifteen or twenty years in the workforce it is not unusual to find your career stagnating. The causes include a stressful work environment, changing job requirements or simply losing interest in your profession. Consequently, you may want to investigate switching to an industry that is more exciting like marketing or advertising. This king kong […]
Maintaining a fulfilling career over 40 is a challenge. Everyone at some point has to deal with a stalled career. I had the pleasure of being interviewed by Caroline Dowd-Higgins as part of her Your Working Life podcast. Caroline is a career coach, speaker and wonderful person. We discussed my book Amplify Your Career and Life and […]
“What is your passion?” Every time I ask this of a coaching client, I get a perplexed look followed by a long uncomfortable silence followed by “if I knew the answer I wouldn’t be sitting here talking to you”. Fair enough. Why is this a difficult question to answer? Two reasons. First, current self-help motivational doctrine […]
As I prepared for another road trip to visit my family, I browsed the audio book section on iTunes to see what grabbed my attention. The last audio book I selected on mindfulness, Finding The Space to Lead, probably wasn’t the best choice for a four-hour car ride. Attempting to relax your mind is at […]
Introducing My First Book, Amplify Your Career and Life: 4 Steps to Evaluate, Assess and Move Forward
Why did I write the book? I always thought my 40’s would be the time when I would enjoy the greatest career and personal rewards. In theory, I should have been at the top of my game. In reality, the opposite was occurring. At the age of 45 a series of life altering events left […]
How often have you heard someone dispense career advice that begins with “You should…”? This may be helpful if you are struggling with …. How to fix a broken toilet? “You should probably call a plumber, you’re not very handy.” You need ideas for your nephew’s birthday present. “You should get him a gift card […]
Today there are few boundaries. You’re tethered to a phone, tablet and computer. This omnipresent connectivity means you’re inundated with information and interruptions.
Over the years I’ve been haunted with the notion that as I get older I will get more crotchety, disgruntled and set in my ways. I have first hand experience with this as I’ve seen friends and family member’s most unflattering personality traits intensify as they age. Is this going to happen to me?
Successful leaders will demand perfection from themselves and their team. When does the quest for perfection inhibit a team’s productivity?
A writer for a professional services association recently asked me this question, “What are the core competencies of a leader today?” Answering this question can have many different layers and vary based on the industry and the needs of the organization. That being said, these five leadership and management competencies are essential for all managers […]
Living to a standard of having the right answer or making the right decision is unattainable. In today’s fast paced business environment there are daily circumstances that test your decision-making ability.
Invest in yourself. You are your most valuable asset. You owe it to yourself to invest time on what will make you flourish and prosper.
Yes, for the short-term. Apparently, a recent post struck a chord. I received an email from a former colleague who is experiencing full-on bad boss behavior. Unfortunately, bad bosses are more common than good ones. Some are ineffective because they lack proper leadership training and others, quite simply are bullies. I take a very pragmatic approach […]
Left unchecked a stressful, pressured filled situation can bring out one's "bad boss". What's the alternative?
3 things you probably don’t know about wheat and should Wheat is big business and dominates the grocery store shelves. With it's ubiquity comes a price tag - how it is produced and its impacts one's health.
One of my favorite summer memories occurred while biking in southwest Michigan. An unfortunate flat tire afforded us the pleasure of meeting a local, George.
Summer is notorious for blockbuster movies and lackluster for those looking for a job as most employers scale back recruiting in the summer. Thankfully, hiring activity begins to pick up after Labor Day as people are back in the office and everyone settles into a typical work routine. Before you dust off your resume and […]
Do you aspire to middle management? Are you selling yourself short if you do? Many mid-level executives I work with love their job and have no aspirations to move up to the top spot.
Is empathy as a leadership value, valued? This is a question I was recently asked by a client. It's one of their values but they aren't sure it translates to leadership. I believe it does. Warmth is present in how you speak to others, listen to others, interact with others and engage with others.
Introverts vs. Extroverts. Who's happier? Would more be gained by celebrating what each has to offer? There is significant advantage to leveraging the gifts that each possess.
There are certain seminal events in our lives when we realize the past is not our future. This transition period of change is never easy especially when you're leaving a "good" past behind.
Avoid communication breakdown with your team. Give your team an edge, by establishing protocols around when to use email, text, face-to-face, voice-to-voice, instant message and any other new platform.
Superfoods, not so super for me. I believed in all the so-called superfoods that would reduce cholesterol. In truth, they were causing migraines and fatigue.
When we see or feel the affects of a workplace injustice we often want to set the record straight, especially when we feel we have been unfairly treated. However, a loose tongue and a proclivity to speak the truth can manifest itself in rather salty behaviors and language that can result in one’s undoing.
Good eye contact is one of the best ways to build rapport and productive relationships in the workplace. I am reminded of this every time I conduct a coaching skills workshop for managers.
Finding a new job is no easy task. Technology is serving as a primary enabler in the process. Leading the way in securing a new position is the use of social media and now smart phones.
Like many others in a helping profession I want my clients to embrace change in order to move forward. It’s easier said than done and I am guilty of dragging my feet when change will disrupt the status quo.
Recently Elizabeth Bernstein wrote an article in The Wall Street Journal, Thank You for Not Sharing. This struck a chord. As an Executive Coach with 25 years of frontline business experience, I can see how anxiety plays a key role in over-sharing for some individuals. However, this can be particularly disruptive in an office environment. […]
Early on in my advertising career, I was trained by some of the best people in the business. A premium was placed not only on being smart but also being prepared and anticipating the unforeseen. This training came in handy during a recent workshop I was leading.
After less than two years at the helm of JC Penney, Ron Johnson is out. There are many factors that contribute to his demise. As a leadership coach and marketer, what strike me are the effects of ambition and ego.
Looking to change careers? 3 Tips from someone who did it. One of my clients successfully made a significant career switch. After six months in his new position, he has 3 insights to share.
Are you struggling to inspire action in the workplace? You may be having dead conversations. I recently discussed this important communication tool at a conference, and I pointed out the important distinctions between an active and a dead conversation.
Can cultures transcend from one organization to another. I have been following the progress of two new high profile CEO’s, Ron Johnson at JC Penney and Marissa Mayer at Yahoo.
We can become so consumed with “making the sale” that we lost sight of the fact that the people sitting before us are human being.
We are in smack in the middle of winter and everyone is feeling its effects. This time of year can drain your energy and dampen your mood. Here are a few quick tips that will help you take care of yourself and stay in good spirits.
There is plenty of advice available on how to deal with procrastination. While the advice may be sound, they can be difficult to put into action if you haven’t uncovered the root cause of your procrastination.
One of the workshops I conduct teaches basic coaching skills for business professionals. I think people would be pleasantly surprised to learn that there is an unintended consequence of using basic coaching skills they can make you more charismatic.
Trading in a desk for a treadmill; how one executive creative director is running her team. I read an article last year that said sitting more than six hours a day makes you 40% likelier to die within 15 years than someone who sits less than three hours, even if you exercise. Most of my days are spent sitting in meetings.
It’s one week into 2013 and I hope your year is off to a good start. Typical for this time of year there is a lot of talk about resolutions and goal setting. Instead of rehashing past resolutions or staring down the laundry list of new ones, how about a fresh perspective on how to move forward.
The common cold is probably the most destructive virus for an office. The symptoms sneak up on you. With cold and flu season at our doorstep there are a few easy things you can do to help prevent infection.
Jumpstart your job search. 5 tips to get you started this fall.
For 25 years I never took more than a week off work for vacation, if that. How could I? I need to be in the office. in truth, others, and I create and perpetuate that way of thinking. Scheduling time away to rejuvenate becomes more critical later in your career.
There seems to be ongoing tension on what it takes to get ahead, especially in corporate America. At the center of this debate is ambition. Is it a help or hindrance. I believe there is a healthy view toward ambition that is needed in order to move forward.
Life, liberty, and pursuit of happiness, is the core of our nation’s independence. And yet, I feel we’ve lost sight of this, specifically, the pursuit of happiness. Instead, people prefer a life of woe.
Over the years, I’ve witnessed two disturbing email trends, avoiding and assaulting. While I believe email plays an important role in business, I fear its isolating and impersonal nature is having an adverse affect on how we interact professionally.
There are countless times when we are motivated to take on a new challenge (start exercising, eating properly, running a marathon). It's critical to realize that motivation will only get you started, commitment will see you through.
Interviewing can be confidence boosting or nerve-racking (usually more of the latter). While most interviewees are focusing on themselves, they are usually oblivious to three factors within an organization that can have dramatic impact on their interviewing and subsequent hiring experience - people, process and politics.
Routines serve an exquisite purpose; to keep us on track and running efficiently. When our routines go left unchecked, we are actively embracing a path of “sameness” and we become stale. We stop discovering and exploring new thoughts, interests and experiences. With summer upon us, it’s a great time to get out and break the routine.
Listen. You might learn something. We talk with enthusiasm and passion but we listen begrudgingly. This starts from a young age and as we progress in our professional careers there is even greater emphasis placed on talking. What does it mean to listen with intent?
Take the multi-tasking challenge. Not, can you do more of it but can you not do it at all. Yes, we all CAN multi-task but is it really serving you and those around you. A common concern I hear is that people don’t feel supported both at work and at home. I wonder how much of that is people not feeling seen and heard.
Who is the reluctant leader? The individual with very strong functional expertise and based on his or her ability rises through the ranks to a leadership position. They are in this position and the expectation is that they will be proficient leaders and managers. Unfortunately, most aren’t prepared.
Most people interview against a job description. That makes sense, right. However, today’s job descriptions are longer than most people’s resume and read more like a wish list. I wonder if there is a slightly different approach. Maybe you should interview for the job you want.
It’s not unusual for us to become paralyzed into inaction. We want to take action do things but we’re feeling the weight of these decisions and the implications they may have on those around us. So we don’t do anything but there is a slow simmer that is happening inside. There is frustration mounting and you feel like you’re losing precious time to take action.
There was a time when part of the ascent up the corporate ladder meant an office. Usually this meant a corner office with room for a meeting table and even a coach and chairs. Today, the best you can hope for is a deluxe workstation that is near a window and can accommodate a place for a few people to sit.
Athletes have always been a source of inspiration. And professional tennis players are no exception. Watching them perform at the highest level and battle it out like warriors, I realize there are a few lessons they can teach us about leadership.
A colleague of mine recently unveiled the mystery behind the word FEAR – Future Events Aren’t Real. How true is that. I’ve come to notice many of my clients, colleagues and friends suffer from pre-worrying. Pre-worrying is the incessant focus on events, situations or conversations that may or may not happen in the future. How […]
What could be more devastating than starting a new job and realizing within a few short weeks that it isn’t what you thought (this has happened to me on a couple of occasions). The typical source of unhappiness – the culture. It’s not at all what you expected. All too often, you place focus on getting […]
I hope so. But I have to be honest, it seems as though the two are constantly pitted at odds with each other. Leaders don’t think they have time for kindness. It’s viewed as a luxury or worse yet, not important. For some reason, people believe that to be a successful leader one must not […]
It’s an age old clash of extroverts vs. introverts. The talkers vs. the listeners. Those who relish the spotlight and those who relish time to contemplate. I was reminded of this recently while reading a Time magazine article on introverts and shyness. For those, like me, who view themselves as having more introverted than extroverted […]